Get this: Your mindset is a choice. It sounds too good to be true, but you can change how you see yourself. Let’s dive into how to improve your self-concept.
The importance of a positive self-image and self-concept
The way you see yourself will dictate your entire life. Self-image and self-concept are so incredibly important and can change your perspective and attitude in any moment. The way you carry yourself, the way you show up to things, the way you converse with others – all of these things hinge on how you understand and see yourself.
So, if you see yourself as a loser, guess what? You’re probably going to move through life as a loser. You’re going to treat yourself like a loser. The opposite is also true though – if you see yourself as very lucky, a fortunate winner in life, that’s how you’ll show up and walk through your days.
In this blog, we are going to reference both self-image and self-concept. The two are both relevant and go hand in hand, as self-image is part of your overall self-concept. But to avoid confusion, let’s begin by defining these terms.
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Self-image: How you see yourself physically (Your looks, your esthetic, how others perceive you)
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Self-concept: How you see and understand yourself on a deeper level (Your overall values, morals, skills, well-roundedness, personality and beliefs)
You decide who you are by the actions you take
The good news is – you can control how you see yourself by becoming someone you like. You get to DECIDE how you see yourself. If you don’t see yourself as the dream girl yet, for now, at least start becoming someone you respect. What would this look like to you?
Would you respect someone who constantly complains about being overweight as they eat donuts every day for breakfast? Probably not. Would you respect someone who can’t afford their rent but spends their money on things they don’t need? No. So stop doing those things and start controlling your own outcomes.
So until you start seeing yourself as the dream girl, someone with strong values and morals, someone with discipline and someone who looks and feels good in their own skin, you’re going to lack confidence. You’ll move through life as an insecure person, and you’ll attract people into your life who will take advantage of you.
Build your own positive perception of yourself
Start viewing yourself from an outsider’s perspective. What would you tell your best friend if she always ignores major red flags in men she dates and then complains that she doesn’t know what she’s doing wrong? You would probably hold her hand while you tell her the truth. Maybe you need to do the same thing for yourself.
By consistently showing up for yourself, you can mold yourself into someone you trust, someone who is reliable. Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend or even your daughter – don’t you want the best for her? Don’t you want her to be well taken care of and thriving? Picture yourself when you were a little girl – don’t you just want to hug her and give her everything she needs to succeed? She is you, so start taking extremely good care of yourself and watch your life change.
Ask yourself: What would the best version of you do?
There’s something you have to realize: sometimes you have to ACT like the person you want to become until you inevitably become her. So, think about it: Picture the best version of yourself. Think of yourself like a project, a blank canvas that you are painting to eventually turn out to be a beautiful work of art. What will it take to get you become your own ultimate dream girl?
What kind of habits does she have? How does she show up in the world? What’s her overall aura and energy? What is her aesthetic?
As you are building this person in your mind, consider the habits this person would have, and start implementing them into your daily routine. For example, does she have incredible skin? The habit you will need to implement then, is a very thorough skincare routine. Is she fit? Then it will take fitting in a consistent workout routine to fulfil this prophecy.
Aside from the physical avatar of this person, though, is the overall poised, radiant person you will need to develop to improve your overall understanding and respect for yourself. In other words, you need to elevate your overall self-concept and understanding of yourself: Your beliefs, your inner wisdom, your emotional intelligence, your confidence and security from within. So, if you do not feel like you are very secure right now, ask yourself: how would a secure person act?
Typically, secure people:
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Show up as their authentic selves
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Respect themselves and others
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Do what’s best for them
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Set boundaries
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Regulate their emotions in a healthy way
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Are not defensive
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Show empathy
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Have straightforward communication
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Are free of old baggage and have let go of the past
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Don’t try to control people
So to recap, here are the steps to tremendously improving your self-concept:
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Dream up the person you want to be.
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Make a list of habits you need to implement to become this person.
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Fake it till you make it when it comes to confidence until you are truly confident.
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Improve how you view and understand yourself tremendously by becoming a version of yourself that you love and admire.
Are you ready to Become HER?
Imagine a life where you feel confident, empowered, and completely in tune with your inner voice.
I have good news for you: My new, 8-week course, Become Her is launching November 1. During this course, you will understand how to transform your life by learning to lead with your feminine energy, achieving your goals, and making choices that resonate with your authentic self. Learn more on what’s included.
Are you ready to actually become your own dream girl and unlocking your true potential? Early-bird special for the course ends on October 14.
I hope to see you there!
XX Margarita
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