Time to Level Up – 4 Ways to Practice Confidence

You’ve been told that confidence is everything, but how do you actually build it from within? Let’s talk about four ways to become a more confident person. 

Chances are, if you’re reading this it means the time has come to level up and become HER. The new version of you, version 2.0 or maybe even 3.0.  The version of you that both feels and appears confident in the world. The woman that shows up with a calmful, graceful poise and attracts happiness and love into her life with ease.

A massive key to embracing your “glow up” journey is practicing confidence. Confidence is an interesting, mysterious topic to me because as much as society preaches about the importance of looking the part, there’s not a lot of discussion around how to actually FEEL it, and what steps to take to build it. So how do you actually become a more confident, self-assured person? 

Confidence is a practice, believe it or not. Yes, it’s true that some people are just born with an innate confidence and that’s great for them. Some other people, though, perhaps you for example, have gone through experiences that have made you question your self-value and it’s left you feeling like a shell of a person. I want you to know that you don’t have to be a slave to your trauma, and you can change. 

For me personally, for example, I struggled with confidence growing up due to not having my family around and being in a different country than them. I didn’t have a relationship with my dad, and this inevitably led me to question my own value. 

This impacted my self-worth, and forced me to navigate the path to creating my own confidence, because I knew I wanted to level up. In order to do so, I had to assign a different label to my identity. I started becoming my own project and developed myself into a person of character and quality, and naturally I started to embody a person of confidence.  

The reason I tell you this, my love, is because I want you to understand that what you do with your difficult past experiences is up to you. You can be a victim and a prisoner to them by allowing them to define you. Or, you can use them as a learning tool to help you get to a new destination. 

Once you start looking at it that way, those traumas become an interesting part of your story, and overall make you more interesting. One day you’ll look back at those difficult days and be thankful for them, because they led you here, to this moment. They gave you the inspiration and motivation to want to be better.

With these things in mind, let’s get into it, shall we?  

4 steps to build confidence from within

To actually feel more confident, you have to feel good about yourself from WITHIN. Here are four ways to do that: 

1. Always focus on growth. 

You need to always be growing in some way, which requires having a goal or a mission you are working towards. I don’t care if you’re a tree or a plant or an animal or whatever, every living thing on this planet needs to grow in order to survive and thrive.  

I want you to let go of the ego and the notion that you are okay as you are – that this version of you is the end all, be all version of you. Hear me out: Change is more than possible, and we should always be improving ourselves. 

When you reach a new goal, you naturally start to feel more confident because you know within how much time and effort you put into getting there. Having this acknowledgement and appreciation for the fact that you started at Point A and arrived at Point B because of your sheer tenacity and spirit – that’s what inspires fulfillment. And when you are fulfilled, you naturally gain confidence.  

2. Practice radical self-acceptance.

This may sound odd, because I just stated that you need to not accept that this version of you is the end all, be all. So how do growth and self-acceptance co-exist? Well, you actually need self-acceptance in order to grow. Here’s what I mean…

I want you to take a moment and consider the fact that it’s a miracle you were even born and all of the events that brought you here, to this exact moment. Consider all the stars that had to align, all the ancestors that came before you and survived through plagues and famines, in order for YOU to arrive into the world. How amazing is that? Doesn’t that make you feel grateful and lucky to be alive and simply exist? 

Everyone has insecurities, that’s just part of being a human. Maybe you don’t like your nose, for example, or you struggle with body image. But being grateful for your body’s ability to have carried you through life thus far makes you more confident. 

Knowing that your nose, even if you don’t think it’s cute, is the nose that once belonged to your ancestors and it’s a reflection of your family’s history, makes you feel an appreciation for it. 

Acceptance, my love, is part of self-love. Acceptance is knowing that while you have insecurities, you still love yourself. It stems from the mindset of: ‘How cool is it that I get to exist in this life?’ At the end of the day, you’re just a human being. 

BUT, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t constantly be growing. Layer growth with self-acceptance, and it’s a beautiful recipe for inner confidence. 

3. Show up for yourself. 

Let’s talk about reliability for a minute. Are you a reliable friend to your best friend? Don’t you show up for her when she needs you? If you have dinner plans with her, you wouldn’t just not show up and leave her sitting at a restaurant alone, would you? So why would you do that to your own self? 

I find it fascinating that we as women were trained all our lives to do things for everyone else and not for ourselves. This notion will rob you of your confidence – after all, how can you feel confident about a person you can’t count on? 

I challenge you to start treating yourself as you would your best friend, which involves honouring your word. If you tell yourself you are going to wake up early to workout, for example, treat that as a non-negotiable appointment with yourself. If you make a promise to yourself to make a delicious, well-balanced meal for dinner tonight instead of ordering takeout, do what you said you were going to do. 

Stop breaking promises to yourself, girl. Because when you do that, you break your own trust. Become a more reliable person for yourself and watch your character and quality improve, and naturally you will build confidence.  

4. Embrace vulnerability. 

You know what phrase has become one of my favorites, ever? “I don’t know.” 

Contrary to popular belief, I think admitting when you don’t know something shows confident vulnerability, and that’s a positive thing. For example, when I show up in a space or work, I have a humble knowledge that I don’t know everything. I don’t have to be the best at everything, I don’t even want to be the best at everything, what on earth does that even mean? So I own it, and gladly admit “I don’t know, teach me,” when I need to. 

I dare you to be vulnerable – tell someone you love them, that you need help, and admit when you don’t know the answer. This does not make you look weak – it actually quite literally has the opposite effect. It shows you can’t lose face, that you have an awareness of your own humanity and humility, and you’re willing to voice it and face it in the world. 

You don’t have to be the best, most bombastic person, you just have to be YOU. This goes hand-in-hand with self-acceptance. 

Confidence is a key part of unlocking your feminine energy 

So you have growth, layered with self-acceptance, reliability and vulnerability. These four elements are integral to cultivating your self-value. Now the question is, are you ready to continue your journey of moving up in the world and building inner strength and emotional intelligence? Here’s the secret to doing so: you need to tap into your feminine energy. 

What is feminine energy? It’s the key to tapping into your abundance, love, radiance and joy as a woman, and I teach a masterclass on what you need to do to embrace it. In my class, you’ll learn how to: 

• Connect with your inner goddess and tap into your feminine energy

• Cultivate more intimacy and deeper connections in your relationships

• Understand how your attachment style affects your relationships

• Create a deeper sense of self-love and self-care

• Attract abundance, love, and joy into your life

• Release limiting beliefs and patterns that are holding you back

• Recognize what not to do when you are dating and what pushes him away

• And much more!

So…what are you waiting for? Here is the 20 Feminine Energy Principles masterclass, I hope to see you there! XX